The inmyskin project series, now presents a chat with Herbeautyspeaks:
one: what is your name and where are you located ?
H - my name is Destiny, but I go by the name of herbeautyspeaks. I am originally from New York, but currently reside in Atlanta, Georgia.
two: what do you feel is your calling in life ?
H - this question is one that took me a while to understand, myself. It wasn't until' some years ago. that I was truly able to know exactly what my calling was. I believe that I am here to help, in every aspect of that word. I am here to inspire through the gifts of artistic expression. I am honestly, here to be, to be myself. One of the many things that wasn't always easy for me to do. I am here to love and share my story that can potentially lift a burden off of someone else.
three: when did you realize your self-worth and how has this journey of self-discovery been for you ? what have you learned the most about yourself ?
H - it's crazy, because years ago I did not think that the opportunity to completely love myself would actually take place. for years, I thought that I was going to stay in the same mind frame of not being able to accept who I was and all that I was born to be. thankfully, God had plans that succeeded my expectations beyond belief. the day that I realized that I was beautiful was one of the days that changed my life, forever. I am not quite sure exactly when this was but, know that it wasn't as long ago as you may think. It has been a few years since I made the decision to treat myself with the love + respect that I deserved, along with every imperfection present. This journey of self-discovery has been an eventful one. It has been extremely beautiful yet challenging at the same time. It's something that I am still growing with as we speak, which I say with no shame. Everyday given, is a another chance to improve, and trust making progress takes time but with dedication, and love anything is possible. One of the most valuable things that I have learned is that I was stronger than I thought. I always thought of myself as weak (rolls eyes*) but it's the truth. Until', I had no choice but to be strong. it was in that moment, that I realized I was wrong.
four: how has your struggles helped you to become a better woman ?
H - my struggles has strengthened me in more ways than one. my struggles do not necessarily define me as a person, but are more so apart of me. my struggles, helped me realized that everything I needed was within me to begin with. my struggles, has helped me remember the beauty of being human.
five: who or what motivates you to create ?
H - I am literally inspired by everything. God, inspires me. the world is full of so much beauty. the simple things in life intrigue me most. the smell of the rain, the echoes that the birds create when they chirp, the love of my family, the sun shining, the cold breeze during a winter night. I am a people watcher to the core. I observe everything, not in a creepy manner though. I study movement, expressions, smells, the little details of people that most probably don't pay close attention to.
six: what is your long time passion in life ?
H - as long as I am creating, I am happy. which may sound weird but that is how I feel. if I am not creating in some way, shape, or form I literally go crazy as in (frustrated*). it's something that I cannot properly explain but is a very big part of my DNA. I want to create for as long as I am able to. to be able to touch more souls with my words and photographs. to make sure that every woman and man knows of their worth and the power that they hold. just let me inspire, you.
seven: if you could give any tips or advice to the young girls and women around the world who suffer with loving and accepting who they are, what would you say ?
H - I believe that words are very powerful. with a word, one can easily be strengthened or broken down. I would tell her that beauty isn't measured in her hips, thighs, and bust size. I would tell her that she matters and is loved very deeply. I would tell her that this life as a woman isn't a walk in the park, but not to let the adversity get her down. . for it will help her in the long run. I would tell her to surround herself with people who care greatly, those of genuine concern and love. I would tell her to never go forth with anything that she isn't 100% ready for. I would tell her to never be ashamed of the strength, power, and love that she holds. to never let anyone come in between her peace of mind + overall sanity. all in all, I would make sure to be of great influence to her, in a positive manner. for not everyone, is blessed to have good company around them.
eight: what do you feel needs to be told to our beautiful women of color ? do you feel that us women of color hear those words often ? if not, what can we do as a community to change that. . .
H - I feel that all negative connotations of us women of color needs to be washed away. we need to be reminded of the beauty that we carry, that isn't solely based upon the cup size of our breasts and thickness of our thighs. we need to be reminded of our power and influence. we need to be reminded that we matter. we need to be told that we are worthy and deserve the best in life. I personally, feel as though we do not hear these words, enough. it's seems as though people are caught up on the wrong things that we forget to acknowledge all that is right. I personally make it my business to ensure that us women of color know of the value that we hold. I could literally write and photograph the beauty of our melanin skin, everyday. we carry history within our bones, we hold quite a bit of mystery yet leave you with wanting more. black women are everything, and I could give two cares if anyone feels the need to say otherwise. I will continue to share the love for my people regardless. please, be aware of the fact that one's opinion will not stop the show.