+ noemie-marguerite

The inmyskin Project, now presents a talk with noemie-marguerite:

one: what is your name and where are you located ?

N - Noemie-Marguerite ; Atlanta, GA

two: what do you feel is your calling in life ?

N - I’m not sure yet, but I feel like it has something to do with expression and helping others to be comfortable with themselves. When I think about other people that have played a part in helping me understand my calling, I realize they did so by sharing theirs. Janelle Monae played a huge part on the importance of personal style. Childish Gambino helped me stop questioning my blackness. The Dope Movie helped me with my individuality. Pharrell showed me what it means to be other. Kendrick is an example of what intentional artistry looks like. Kanye helped me with my confidence...I could go on. And the funny/crazy/interesting part is that none of them did the things they did with the intention of trying to help me with my calling. They probably started off with projecting what was in their spirit. Once they showed their light, more people became drawn to it. So to answer your question, I really don’t know what my calling is, but I feel like it’ll come to me as I continue to show my light.

three: when did you realize your self-worth and how has this journey of self-discovery been for you ? what have you learned the most about yourself ?

N - I realized my self-worth around the time I turned 17. Ironically it was also the same time my world felt like it was crumbling. I had issues with respecting my emotions and feelings. I never felt like I was good enough, pretty enough, you name it-I wasn’t it. I had gorgeous friends and I always compared myself to them. I was just going through SO MUCH and didn’t know how to deal with my experiences. A couple days after my 17th birthday, I experienced my first panic attack. It was the scariest experience of my life. Unfortunately the panic attacks increased over time and by the time I turned 19, my anxiety was so severe that I couldn’t handle eating in public or with friends. I was so tired of holding back all the time. I just never felt ‘right’ in my skin. The turning point was when I was about 20 years old and my brother suggested meditation. With meditation and photography, I was able to start to explore and understand myself, comfortably.

So far this self-discovery has been...interesting hah. I like to divide it in stages. The first stage being ‘the first step’, so just getting used to the practice of what self-discovery entails which I believe I experienced for the last 2.5 years. Now I’m in the stage of ‘getting deep’. Meditation is all about awareness and photography, expression. So I’m combining the two and expressing the new things I’m understanding about myself. It helps keep me accountable and remind me of where I started and where I’m going.

What I’ve learned most about myself is that I don’t hold back. Which is still a shocker considering my past, but you know, it makes sense because when you’ve been so scrunched in for so long, the moment you learn you’ve always had space to move-you just move...everywhere.

four: how has your struggles helped you to become a better woman ?

N - I am so tired of struggling that I will do everything in my power to no longer struggle. If that means being uncomfortable, then so be it. It hurts to think back on how much shit I gave myself in the past. I didn’t support myself at all. Didn’t love myself, and I don’t ever want to go back to that. So now my goal is to be great and be me and to experiment and try and fail and love and succeed and just be proud and feel beautiful. I owe it to that 10 year old girl who hated her body. I owe it to that 17 year old girl who felt like nothing. I owe it me to be that better woman that I can be, period.

five: who or what motivates you to create ?

N - God. I call him my Homeboi because that’s what he feels like to me. He’s the homie. I talk to Him, laugh with Him, ask Him a shit ton of questions, yell at Him, cry to Him. And every time, He’s always like ‘What do you feel like doing now?’, and I go “Make something”, and He’s like “Bruh, flourish. I got you if you slip up.”

six: what is your long time passion in life ?

N - I’m all about aesthetics. I like when things look good and feel good. For now I’ll say web design, branding, and photography are my niches but there's soooo much more I want to do. And I know I don't have to be limited in one or a few things, so I'll definitely explore them soon.

seven: if you could give any tips or advice to the young girls and women around the world who suffer with loving and accepting who they are, what would you say ?

N - Take your time. We all know it’s not okay to feel the way you feel about yourself, but understand that it’s normal and that it’s not you. You not loving yourself is a response from something or someone that hurt you. Take the time to figure out what those things or who those people are and forgive them. Be patient in the process because it requires so much from you but I promise, it’s worth it. Understand they didn’t intend to hurt you. Understand that peace is your default. Love is your natural response. It hasn’t left you and never will, you just gotta put in the work to find it. And the best part? You ain’t gotta do it alone.

eight: what do you feel needs to be told to our beautiful women of color ? do you feel that us women of color hear those words often ? if not, what can we do as a community to change that. . .

 N - ‘Flourish in your own way’. It’s one thing to be a woman, but another to be a black woman. I feel like we have sooooo much pressure to fit in this one mold. ‘Make sure you’re not angry. Make sure hair looks good at all times.  Make sure you dress like this ’

Dude, I’m a black chick, who either sports bantu knots on the regular, listens to music ranging from Future to old-school Radiohead, does front-end web development, and places Laguna Beach in the Top 5 Greatest Reality TV Shows of All Time. There was a long ass time where I was not comfortable to admit that out loud because I didn’t feel like a black woman can like those things or do those things. I’m not saying I’m the only one who carries those interests but when you don’t see people like you on TV or your general surroundings, it can be discouraging sometimes. But we should not wait to see someone we can relate to, to start feeling comfortable in our own skin. We must understand that our mere existence is a gift within itself and to flourish in our own way.

As a community, we should support each other’s gifts and successes and being. I think that will play a huge part of us not feeling like we’re competing with each other. It’ll remind us that one’s success does not take away from another’s.

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