+ alexis marie

The inmyskin, Project now presents a chat with alexis marie:

one: what is your name and where are you located ?

A - Alexis Marie, Charlotte, NC

two: what do you feel is your calling in life ?

A - I feel my true calling in life is to help. I have all these aspirations and ideas that I am going to make true someday. They range from drives, to my own charity and my own business. right now I'm just at a point where I don't know how but I know I'm going to get there. The other thing I feel I was called upon to do is be a local enthusiast. One day being able to buy and have, if not everything then most things, from wants to needs locally (from anywhere just not big brands) is a big dream and goal of mine.

three: when did you realize your self-worth and how has this journey of self-discovery been for you ? what have you learned the most about yourself ?

A - I discovered myself after doing 2 nude shoots and having them both drawn. I've always had a certain dislike, or a rather a discomfort, of myself and my body. The dislike/discomfort of myself only stems from the2 words that always seemed to follow me around when I spoke of all the artistic things I wanted to be. That variable......YOU'LL STARVE.You'll starve as a singer. You'll starve as an artist. You'll starve as a model. After this year I've learned THE SKY IS LIMITLESS. Now my body dislike/discomfort being that I heard all these words in life, cute, pretty, beautiful, bodacious, voluptuous, vixen and so many other, and for each one I saw a different face and a different body of what I was supposed to be and look like. For each word there was different vision, and I could never match myself to all of them at one time. That is until I did these nude shoots. They were both empowering. I found both the voluptuous and bodacious vixen I never pictured myself being, eeven in the eyes of my partner no matter how sexy and seductive I felt with him, and I found the beauty I never saw myself as being. This whole process has been eye opening. I found pieces to my naked truth ironically, meaning I'vechose to accept and love myself for the ideas I have, body I was given and skin I'm in. Now on this journey it's time to further thatgrowth.

four: how has your struggles helped you to become a better woman ?

A - This struggle, just like all the others I've come across in my short almost 21yrs of life, has helped me to come to terms with whatever is bothering me, accept it and embrace it wholly.

five: who or what motivates you to create ?

A - There are 3 people in life that motivate most. 1.) My daughter Ari. She is my cocoa powder munchkin and my reason to keep going. 2.) My Boyfriend Nicholas. He is my King and believed in me before I even came to the point of believing in my damn self, as far as these aspirations I spoke of in the beginning. 3.) Myself. My journey is just beginning and I'm just now realizing it.

six: what is your long time passion in life ?

A - My oldest long time passion is, again, to help. From Children to adults I've always loved to help. My newest passion that I'm making long term, embracing me, something I never really let myself get a chance to do till now.

seven: if you could give any tips or advice to the young girls and women around the world who suffer with loving and accepting who they are, what would you say ?

A - It'd be cliche to say don't listen to what others say, follow your dreams, let no one stop you, and all the other corny stuff we've heard in life. This might sound corny too, but it is the best way I can say it....The sky is limitless. Reach for the stars, make way for the galaxies, but travel through universes. Starvation is hunger and feed it well, for no one in this world can stop you. Not even you.

Hell ask yourself this, what is so extraordinary about being extra ordinary? I asked myself that question long ago, just being a playful preteen, and now it has meaning. Now find yours.

eight: what do you feel needs to be told to our beautiful women of color ? do you feel that us women of color hear those words often ? if not, what can we do as a community to change that. . .

A - We are... Blessed with elegance. Draped in confidence. Embedded with nothing but soul. Bearers of melanin. Emitting only beauty. Graced to be the utmost of gold.

We don't hear this often. What we hear is Willie lynch. Put the light skinned and the old against the young. Over 400 years later and it still lives. We also hear if she bears too much she's a fast living Jezebel, and she's loved for it. If She bears too little she's a Mammy, and conservative, bossy, rude, gets the job done though and yet she's probably the most disliked. In society we're " pretty for a black girl". We just have to be mixed cause we got good hair, great skin and high cheekbones. We're just angry women that just won't lay down. Ask yourself what would happen if we brought every black woman together, from the "highest" of high class to, to the "midst" of middle class, and the "lowest" of low class, and band together to create one uplifting union. We see no shade lighter than honey or darker than charcoal. We see no class higher than Hollywood or lower than the streets. We take all the pinned up anger and lash out as band of sisters that have turned the anger into togetherness. I feel as once band together no matter the differences in shades, physique, attitudes, hair and everything else queens decide to dislike other queens for then we can hear these words as often as needed. Maybe not just hear words but do something about society and stereotypes.